People Get Super Candid About How Their Sex Lives Changed After Having A Baby

It's not all doom and gloom.

Intercourse is (often) the act that brings a child into a relationship ― but once the baby arrives, couples’ sexual intimacy generally takes a backseat to the all-encompassing task of keeping a tiny human alive. If one partner has given birth, they will need time for physical healing, and if they’re breastfeeding, couples may need to switch up their erogenous zones.

Yet we somehow expect that people will tolerate this change and then find their way back to a healthy sexual relationship without a struggle, without outside help and without honest conversations about their needs and desires.

The truth is that after becoming parents, it takes a lot of effort, and often some creativity, to bring a sexual relationship back to a place that is satisfying for everyone involved.

Below, people share the ways that their sexual relationships changed after the birth of a child, and how they handled it with their partners.

‘Physical intimacy was lacking because it was the last thing I could even think about.’