Sleep divorce: Why some couples are opting to break up at bedtime
Global News
Known as 'sleep divorce,' it’s a trend that’s allowing couples to wake up refreshed and still in a relationship — even if it's from different rooms.
Imagine finally drifting off to bed, only to be jolted awake by a bedquake caused by your partner’s restless leg. Or maybe you’ve just pulled the covers snug around you when they’re yanked away again.
From loud snores to extreme body heat, these common nighttime nuisances have led some couples to try sleeping apart. Known as “sleep divorce,” it’s a trend that’s allowing couples to wake up refreshed and still in a relationship, even if it’s from different beds or rooms.
“Sleep divorce refers to when two people in an intimate relationship decide to have a sleeping arrangement where they’re not in the same bed. They may be in the same room, but technically, they’re just not in the same bed,” explained Dr. Saunia Ahmad, a clinical psychologist and director of the Toronto Psychology Clinic.
“The term divorce obviously has a negative connotation, but it really doesn’t have to be a negative decision.
Ahmad said she prefers to use the term “co-regulating” your sleep, as it can be a positive way of coping with the fact that two people have different patterns when it comes to sleeping
So, if you and your partner have been sleeping in separate beds (or have talked about it) for the sake of better snooze, Ahmad says not to worry — it’s quite normal and can even improve the quality of your relationship.
This is exactly what Dana Infald, 41, and her husband decided to do a few years ago.
After countless nights of disrupted sleep because of his tossing, turning and snoring, they realized it was time for a change. So, they embraced the idea of sleeping apart to finally get the rest they both needed.