My name is Ntwali and it means warrior. It used to embarrass me but now I hope I can live up to it

This First Person article is written by Ntwali Kayijaho, a Rwandan Canadian hip-hop artist living in Edmonton. His story is part of Black on the Prairies, a CBC collection of articles, essays, images and more exploring Black life in Alberta, Saskatchewan and Manitoba. For more information about First Person stories, see the FAQ.

Hello, my name is Ntwali Kayijaho and I'd like to introduce myself. 

I know, I know what you're thinking right now. How do you pronounce that? Is there a clicking sound? Is it Twali? Is it Nit-Wali? Where is it from? Where are you from? 

Before moving to Alberta, I had no idea how unique my name was. Or how difficult it would be for people to pronounce. 

I was four when my family moved to Canada as refugees from Rwanda. Out of all the options — places like Belgium, California, Oregon, New York, Buffalo — my parents decided that Windsor, Ont., would be the best fit for them and their four sons and a fifth child on the way.

Eight years later when we moved to Edmonton, my 12-year-old self had no awareness of the identity dilemma I was about to embark on. 

In my native tongue of Kinyarwanda, "Ntwali" means warrior or brave person. According to my parents, Ntwali stood out when they were searching for a name to give me.

I was born on July 13, 1996, two years after the end of one of the world's worst genocides. The 100-day massacre that targeted Tutsi people like my family — one of the two minority populations of Rwanda — ended on July 15, 1994, with an estimated 800,000 to one million people dead.

My parents chose to stay among the Tutsi people who tried to rebuild the country but in March 2000, they decided it was too difficult to remain and went in search of a better life in Canada.

My parents shielded us from the tough times they'd known.

My father, a renowned physician in Rwanda, was not viewed as being as educated as he was once we arrived in Canada. Therefore, he would commute across the border daily to do a master's in public health at Wayne State University in Detroit. He managed to graduate at the top of his class while volunteering at a hospital pushing wheelchairs, working full-time at the United Way and providing for the family.

My mother, who had been a teacher and a business owner in Rwanda, had to lay down her hustler's spirit to raise five boys. On top of that, they were both still coping with the trauma of losing family, friends and property in Rwanda. 

I was around 17 when my parents explained the meaning of my name. After what they had gone through, they needed a warrior in their lives.

Today I am honoured that my name carries so much power, intention and the richness of my family's identity. But 12-year-old me did not know how beautiful and meaningful my name was and I had the complete opposite reaction to it.